Dear Jane Doe,
It sounds to me like you have thought out all possibilities. There is nothing wrong with getting to know her, it is good to have a best friend of the same gender, especially if the only real friends you have currently are family and your boyfriend. I would say though, if you are really attracted to her and she is attracted to you, you should probably say something. It wouldn’t be fair to your boyfriend if you were emotionally attached to this girl like you are with him. I hope this helped at least a little. A situation like this is hard and sometimes the best thing to do is to do nothing at all.
Original submission:
So I’ve been in an extremely loving relationship with my boyfriend for almost three years now. Lately, I’ve been having feeling toward this one girl. They aren’t sexual feelings or even loving feelings, but I just look at her and think to myself, “I know I could love you.” So I just can’t help but continue talking to her and getting to know her, and the more I do the more I think I might love this girl. The only real friends I have now are my boyfriend and my family. Maybe I just miss having a female best friend, maybe I am pansexual?
