May 2011
2 posts
Anonymous asked: I really like this girl. I've asked her out but she wants to wait. Something about wanting to focus on school & if I were to ask her to come over, she'd feel bad if she didn't. All of that being if she had said yes. But, she hangs out every day after school with everyone and it's nothing bad. But, I just don't understand why it would be different if it was me she was...
Again, I am sorry.
I have been thinking about this blog a lot lately, mostly because it is summer and I have an abundance of free time.
I just don’t know if it is worth trying to start back up.
November 2010
1 post
Anonymous asked: So I really like one of my best friends. He's giving me so many mixed signals. He tells me everything and he stopped talking about his love life for a long time and I thought maybe it was because he liked me. I mean everyone sees us and thinks we're more than friends, but we're not. Lately he started talking about this girl he used to talk about being in love with and would never...
July 2010
1 post
I am so sorry for not posting on here lately.
I had forgotten the password to my formspring account and randomly remembered it. I have updated the questions there.
June 2010
1 post
March 2010
7 posts
Anonymous asked: I used to be in love with a boy, one of my best friends, and he loved me too. But he stopped talking to me about a year ago. It was for absolutely no reason and I couldn't believe that he stopped loving me. We understood each other so perfectly; I swear he was (is) my soulmate. Lately he's been giving signs, kind of like we used to together, that he still loves me and regretted it...
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Formspring response:
“I’m feeling love for another human being. But I couldn’t even begin to think of how I could tell them.”
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Don’t wait, you don’t want to miss your chance.
You can now submit questions through tumblr ask.
I am now working on a formspring.me account. I am once again really sorry for the lack of action! Things have been rather hectic and like I said before I lost the login information for the formspring account. What I didn’t know was that I could see the whole submission by checking my email from formspring on my computer, I usually work from my phone. If you submitted something and I did not...
Dear some one,
I just realized that I could see the full message when I looked at my email from formspring on the computer, I usually work on this from my phone. Don’t give into him just because he is bugging you about it, trust me it never works out for the best. If you aren’t ready to date, don’t do it, you are still young and have plenty of time to find the right guy for you. I...
Sorry I haven't updated.
I lost the login information to the formspring, so I am going to set up a new message system. I feel terrible!
<3 Taylor
February 2010
1 post
Dear Second Place,
I don’t think it is wrong for you to be upset about this. I would be. I would ask him if everything is okay. Maybe he is just in a hard place right or not feeling himself lately. There could be more to his side of the story, I would just ask him.
Original Submission:
Okay. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 2 months, we’ve been friends for almost a year, and we’ve...
December 2009
3 posts
Dear Raestar,
Your standards are your standards. Don’t let other people tell you that you are being too picky. You don’t want to settle for less, and that is fine. You can get to know a guy by hanging out and talking, you don’t have to do anything sexual with them at all. Hang out with guys you want to get to know like you would hang out with your regular friends. Try not to worry about what...
Dear Jane Doe,
It sounds to me like you have thought out all possibilities. There is nothing wrong with getting to know her, it is good to have a best friend of the same gender, especially if the only real friends you have currently are family and your boyfriend. I would say though, if you are really attracted to her and she is attracted to you, you should probably say something. It wouldn’t be fair to...
Let me be very lear about this because kids today...
thesaltwaternight:
Please, I’ve run across too many kids lately who have been hurt this way and not said a thing about it.
If you’re NOT SURE if what happened to you was assault, ASK ME!
November 2009
6 posts
Seeking Someone to vent to:
From: Flava’ Flaave.
I broke up with my ex about a year from now already, and I miss him so much, it’s like unbearable. But he doesn’t feel the same way and I wouldn’t be surprised if he thinks I’m a piece of shit. Its nothing like super emotional or anything, but I really miss him. Like when I see him in the halls I usually try ignoring him, but in my mind...
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sharethefuckinglove:
“I think it is really nice of someone to actually want to help and be there for people who don’t know where to go.”
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Dear Brandy Renee,
Sorry this is so late! I don’t think continuing your relationship as friends with benefits would help you in anyway because you are still attached to him emotionally. I would distance myself if I were you. Let things run their course. .
Hope this helps!
To those who have submitted recently
I will be responding within the next couple days, I have been busy and want to give you guys the best I have to give you.
Dear Brandy Renee,
It sounds to me like he just doesn’t know what he wants right now. It sucks, but sometimes people aren’t always honest. Just let things run their course for now because if it is meant to happen it will, it just might take some time to get there.
Dear The Noose,
“i just need to deeply fall in love but it seems as if everything just damages everyone.” A lot of the time I feel like this. I think we all feel exactly like this at some point or another and it really sucks because we feel like we are stuck in a rut, or at least that is how it feels for me. You can tell me anything :] and if you would like I can give you me email or you could just...
October 2009
2 posts
Dear Owl,
That is a tough thing to have to deal with. I support you, if that counts for anything :] Just don’t think negatively about yourself, don’t feel like you have to tell the world, when you are ready/comfortable to tell the people you want to tell, just make sure the outcome is something you can accept.
<3 Taylor
Original Submission:
“i think i’m gay and i know noone...
To the person who sent me the message about...
I am proud that you have resisted the urge to cut, stay strong. Maybe this book will help you completely overcome the urge to cut again. I am glad that you chose to write about this to get it out. Stay strong!
love, Taylor If you ever need any other help feel free to write back!
August 2009
14 posts
Dear Koo,
This is normal. I have two friends who went for a long time without being attracted to either sex. Don’t be alarmed :]
Original submission:
“i’m not attracted to boys or girls and i’m 13. is this normal?”
Dear heart broken,
Heartbreak is probably one of the hardest things that you will ever have to go through. To be honest, it isn’t as easy as just picking up the pieces and moving on. Things are going to be hard, without a doubt, but we just have to try and make the best of what we do have. Try to think of the positives that have come out of this relationship, you have experienced love. It isn’t fair for...
Don't forget to submit :D
or just check in every once in a while, if you want to keep me posted on things that I have helped you with I would love it!
Thank you!
thank you asdfjkl;
“I just wanted to tell you that i think this is the nicest thing i’ve seen in awhile and it brightened my day! so thank you for that. it’s so nice that you’re doing this.
i don’t really have anything to vent about right now, but ill definitely use this site when i need it! i don’t really have anyone to confide in at the moment, so thank you in advance for...
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANON!
I am sorry that no one has wished you a happy 13th birthday!
Yay for being a teenager now! These years will go by faster than you know, so have all the fun you can!
If you would like more of an inside look at who I...
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Updates
I will be updating an ear to listen every day at around 4:30 eastern time.
I will also be adding a box you can check if your submission is urgent and needs to be responded to before 4:30.
Thank you to all my followers, the old and the new, you have made this blog possible, and an even bigger thank you to those of you who have submitted. Feel free to keep me posted on things! I hope I have...
Dear Lilian pt 2,
Hang in there I promise things won’t always be this terrible. Things always seem to go wrong at the same time. Just try to keep your head up, maybe ask your parents about seeing a therapist, that way you can work on preparing yourself for after your soulmate passes (I’m so sorry, email me personally if you have to taylor9210@gmail.com) and then you can also get all your thoughts and...
Dear Lilian pt1,
I am so sorry you have to experience a loss like this. Spend the all the time you can with him. I can’t sit here and tell you that you can move past this and get on with your life, because to be honest my grandmother who I was extremely close to has been dead for 10 years and I still cry whenever I think about it. Just think about how lucky you are to have experienced a close bond with...
Dear anon,
It is never alright for someone to be abused, and if at any point you feel it is getting out of hand, say something to someone. I think you have a good head on your shoulders and are open and accepting the world the way it is, keep that mind set and don’t let anyone make you believe different.
Thank you for your submission and I am sorry for being so late on the reply!
Original...
Dear Lillian and Anon,
Hang in there! I am on my phone right now, and it usually doesn’t let me post from it.
I will go on the computer as soon as I get home that way I can respond fully to your submissions.
If you need me quickly you can email me: taylor9210@gmail.com or you can IM me on AIM: iwasthe0cean
I am so sorry for being so late on the responses.
Dear Ellen,
Please, please, please, please go to college. You are fortunate to have the financial assistance that you have. Many people would jump at the chance to go to a school that is close to home and not have a lot of money come out of their pocket. This is your future, only you can decide what is best for you, but I would say going to school would be the best thing for anyone. You will get used to the...
SORRY!
I am not able to post things for An Ear to Listen on my phone, so I haven’t had a chance to post replies!
Keep submitting, and I am sorry about being late on the replies!
I miss getting submissions!
Don’t forget to post every once in a while!
Say whatever is on your mind :]
July 2009
38 posts
Dear random person,
I can imagine this is going to be a huge adjustment for you. It is definitely going to be tough. Maybe you and your parents could try using skype or something of the sort to see each other, even though it won’t be in person, it may be more personal than just talking on the phone. I would happy that I had at least one person I knew with me like you do. I would try to find a group of people,...
Venting: thank you to who sent this :)
“thank goodness for having this site up on the net. i feel more relieved that i can count on someone online who has confidentiality whether we’ve met or not.
….now i know who to lean on when all else fails.”
Dear anonymous girl,
Guys are just really weird and get jealous. Can’t live with them, can’t live without them I guess haha.
Dear anonymous girl,
Maybe your ex still isn’t over you and has a hard time talking to you because he knows that you are happy in the relationship you are in now. He still could be a little bitter even though you aren’t. I would just give him some time, and chances are he will start to be himself with you again.
Venting:
“im so boring and hes so interesting.”
Dear clueless,
I would go to your guidance councilor and ask for help, because that is a serious lie. Fixing the situation with the people who find out is going to be a challenge, come clean with them if they are close to you, sure they will be mad at first, but maybe there is another underlying reason why you decided to come up with that lie and they can help you try to get to the bottom of it. As far as people...
Venting:
“in the street, i walk past girls and wish i looked like them, i wish i was thin, i wish i had nice hair, i wish i turned heads, but the thing is i don’t and i probably never will.”
Dear guycrazy,
Well, this is going to be really hard to answer, because there isn’t really a set way to get a guy. I would start off by getting to know a guy and hanging out with him, and then if I felt things were going good and I liked him, I would kind of hint to him that I was interested by ways such as flirting.
I guess it just kind of happens, if there were exact ways to get a guy, the world would...
Dear INEEDTO,
You aren’t crazy. Relationships are always tough to get over, especially if you were involved for a long time. You really love and care about him still, which is normal. Things will change, it just takes time. I think everyone has felt the way you are right now, I know I have. Sometimes feelings seem like they will never go away, maybe they won’t, but eventually we just have to put it...
Venting:
“i hate the way i look, the person i am on the inside doesnt match who i am on the outside. i want to tear all my skin off and run away covered in my own personality, people would like me so much better that way.”
Dear nevercertain,
I am the same way. I think it is more that we are indecisive, and for me it is I have a hard time picking one thing because I am so worried about what other people are going to think or how I am going to make them feel because of what I choose. I find safety in numbers, maybe you feel the same way. I think we will grow out of it once we have to start making harder decisions.
I hope this helped a...
Dear les voleurs,
This is what I think:
You guys are extremely good friends and since you guys are so close and alike, you have a hard time wanting to be with someone different and new. You have a special bond with him that probably isn’t like any other bond you have with another guy, and that’s why you are so unsure. You ask a good question at the end of your submission, but ultimately the only person...