Your standards are your standards. Don’t let other people tell you that you are being too picky. You don’t want to settle for less, and that is fine. You can get to know a guy by hanging out and talking, you don’t have to do anything sexual with them at all. Hang out with guys you want to get to know like you would hang out with your regular friends. Try not to worry about what everyone else has to say about your life. I would like thank you as well, it really means a lot :]
Original submission:
I’m listening So I’m 16 this year and I have never had a boyfriend/fling/REALLY liked someone. My friends tell me it’s because I have really high standards and they make it seem like a bad thing. Is it? It confuses me a lot because I believe in having dignity and stuff and I know its wrong to throw yourself at guys but I can’t see the difference between throwing yourself at them and letting them get to know you? (I don’t know if this makes sense) I have male friends too and they all seem to not understand where I’m coming from. Everybody seems to think I just do not want a boyfriend, but it’s not like that. Then there are those that question how straight I actually am…
I look at my friends who have made mistakes and I know I don’t want to be like that and get myself hurt. Maybe I’m just scared? Sometimes I think my standards are too high or something.
Wow that was long. BTW, I think its awesome and I really admire what you’re doing. Very cool.
It sounds to me like you have thought out all possibilities. There is nothing wrong with getting to know her, it is good to have a best friend of the same gender, especially if the only real friends you have currently are family and your boyfriend. I would say though, if you are really attracted to her and she is attracted to you, you should probably say something. It wouldn’t be fair to your boyfriend if you were emotionally attached to this girl like you are with him. I hope this helped at least a little. A situation like this is hard and sometimes the best thing to do is to do nothing at all.
Original submission:
So I’ve been in an extremely loving relationship with my boyfriend for almost three years now. Lately, I’ve been having feeling toward this one girl. They aren’t sexual feelings or even loving feelings, but I just look at her and think to myself, “I know I could love you.” So I just can’t help but continue talking to her and getting to know her, and the more I do the more I think I might love this girl. The only real friends I have now are my boyfriend and my family. Maybe I just miss having a female best friend, maybe I am pansexual?
From: Flava’ Flaave.
I broke up with my ex about a year from now already, and I miss him so much, it’s like unbearable.
But he doesn’t feel the same way and I wouldn’t be surprised if he thinks I’m a piece of shit.
Its nothing like super emotional or anything, but I really miss him.
Like when I see him in the halls I usually try ignoring him, but in my mind I’m running to him, hugging him, kissing him, asking him if we could be together again.
But it’s only my mind.
Sorry this is so late! I don’t think continuing your relationship as friends with benefits would help you in anyway because you are still attached to him emotionally. I would distance myself if I were you. Let things run their course. .
Hope this helps!
I will be responding within the next couple days, I have been busy and want to give you guys the best I have to give you.
It sounds to me like he just doesn’t know what he wants right now. It sucks, but sometimes people aren’t always honest. Just let things run their course for now because if it is meant to happen it will, it just might take some time to get there.
“i just need to deeply fall in love but it seems as if everything just damages everyone.” A lot of the time I feel like this. I think we all feel exactly like this at some point or another and it really sucks because we feel like we are stuck in a rut, or at least that is how it feels for me. You can tell me anything :] and if you would like I can give you me email or you could just tell me things through formspring because I get them sent to my phone.
<33
Original Submission:
“i really feel i need a friend to tell everything to, but i just can’t find the right person and even if i did, i’m afraid i would immediately fall in love with him/her and consequently have to stop telling him/her the whole truth about stuff. i know we’ll always be lonely but i can’t really stand feeling like that everyday. i just need to deeply fall in love but it seems as if everything just damages everyone. (i’m not sure about writing you this, but i’m very curious and i think you’re kind to do what you do).”
That is a tough thing to have to deal with. I support you, if that counts for anything :] Just don’t think negatively about yourself, don’t feel like you have to tell the world, when you are ready/comfortable to tell the people you want to tell, just make sure the outcome is something you can accept.
<3 Taylor
Original Submission:
“i think i’m gay and i know noone around me will accept it.”
